The backup boi

I’m not entirely certain if it’s just a Jamaican people thing or it’s all over the world but seeing the beam in other people’s eyes is easier than seeing and taking the beam out of their own. Truthfully we all create opinions on others though we may not all share it. But Lord knows, I get really mad when people overshare.

Sometimes we don’t see how opinions impact others and I have always known that I will protect my children from the ignorant and hurtful.

We had to go up the road just now as my youngest was running low on diapers, as the usual stores I would go to had no diapers in her size we sought it elsewhere, bad mistake smh. Anywho, we are in there and a ‘backup boi’ (a public transportation vehicle loader) walks in, looks at the elder of my pair of thirties and says to him, “ay man stop eat enuh, stop eat.” Now of course if you know anything about me, I don’t put up with any foolishness from anyone as it pertains to my children. I looked up and let him know politely, thank you but he’s good. This ignorant jackal is going to hop all up into his feelings and proceeds to tell me that he has raised how many children and he’s warning him for his own good. I had to advise further, sir, he has a nutritionist and two pediatricians, thank you but as I previously alluded to, he is well taken care of, you don’t need to impose your opinion on my child, have a blessed and happy Sunday.

The devil is a strong one I tell you as he proceeds to let me know that I’m the same one that he will have to pick up on the street when they box me down. Now I’m not saying people aren’t ignorant enough to do foolish things but come on. You see a three-year-old minding his business as is his mother and you feel so moved to tell him to stop eating because he has a round stomach and strong frame. Then you feel so moved to advise on obesity, Sir, honestly take a million steps back, find out why it is that you so ignorantly chose to open your ignorant yap in the first place.

We all have opinions, we all feel some type of way when we see certain things but what I won’t allow, is your advice is unsolicited sir and honestly, I would much appreciate if you have something to say about my son, say it to me. Don’t you dare make the same mistake. It’s funny you “grow” so many but no one ever raised you, let you know there are certain truths that may be unspoken but poignant to overall development. The fact of the matter is, yes he may be overweight for his age, but he also taller than the average child his age, also he is much more developed. But you don’t see all the other factors, and maybe you don’t even care you merely allowed the first piece of crap thought that came to your mind roll straight out of your ignorant head.Honestly what he said bothered me more so because he felt so moved to look at my son and say those things, you look like you could use a few meals sir and a shower but hey, it would be rude and disrespectful of me to share such unsolicited advice with you.

Honestly what he said bothered me more so because he felt so moved to look at my son and say those things, you look like you could use a few meals sir and a shower but hey, it would be rude and disrespectful of me to share such unsolicited advice with you. It’s trying when you live in a world where not everyone is raised with some of the basic principles you were raised with and moreover, even in the day to day runnings of your life you never picked up on certain additional lessons that could be pertinent to your overall development.

I will absorb the hate and shower him with love, knowledge, and strength. This man was one of many, and my thirties will be strong, will be secure and firm in thought and spirit. People see greatness and want to do anything they can to dull the beauty that shines within. I will forever speak words of power and speak words of truth to empower and raise his morale. He is my one boy that I will allow to grow into a man someday, he will make missteps but I will be there as his pillar of strength and with the will of God moving in me, he will be impenetrable.

God loves us all, especially those who try to dampen the beauty and dull the light that sparkles in others.

 

So from my pair of thirties and I, we bid you adieu!

xoxo

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One Comment Add yours

  1. Denise Burton says:

    I am in total agreement that the concern should’ve been shared with You, instead of Your Child; frankly speaking ,sometimes it’s best to ignore ignorance.

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